A drama-free zone

by barbaragarn

The comments on the [url=http://www.jmshockey.com/blog/articles/team-leadership-types]last blog about captaining a league team and the [url=http://www.jmshockey.com/aha-f11/referee-situation-t994.html]forum thread about referees really got me thinking.

We’ve all–unfortunately–had experience with someone who has lost perspective and turned a situation into their personal drama, ignoring the team and the common goal.

Whether it’s league play or JMS or pond hockey in the park, we play to have FUN.
The drama is pitiful, but we all know some unbelievable but true stories.

I just don’t understand how adults can forget themselves so completely and act so shamefully. I can’t decide which is worse: people who get so carried away that their actions are out of control, or the ones whose over the top responses are a deliberate CHOICE.

Either way, nobody wants to be on a team with these players. How do you know when they’ll blow up? How can you predict their devolution into irrationality? Are you always walking on eggshells, avoiding the drama trigger? And why on earth keep dealing with it over and over? If you’ve seen the behavior once, you will again. Period.

This is a GAME, fer cryin out loud. This is not life and death. For all that I love hockey, this is not the most important thing in your life, or it shouldn’t be.

Having passion about a sport is fantastic–necessary, even–but knowing where to draw the line isn’t just important, it’s crucial. I am astonished when otherwise reasonable people let themselves go over something as small as adult rec hockey.

Hockey is the coolest game, but it IS just a game. When I hear about people whose self-worth is so wrapped up in their hockey identity that it makes them act irrationally… it’s just embarrassing. The point is the game; nobody will thank a teammate for creating drama. Ever.

When it’s time to choose teams, people remember. Players who continually change situations into their own personal drama will indeed find themselves screaming on stage–alone.

Intensity is good. Irrationality is not.